"You're a little more pensive than usual, especially when you contemplate the passage of time. Some recent successes have made you see how far you've come, and how many milestones are under your belt."
She doesn't know how far that's true, but she tells herself, that she must never, ever allow herself to backslide.
Even in her general state of lethargy, she notices the peace offerings, and the hints to take initiatives, but the hurt lingers. Sure, the rules have changed and the goalposts have moved, yet some things remain the same - all girls would like to be fetched from their homes. If there's a bias towards guys who show up at your door, then why the differential treatment of a certain girl vs another?
Relationship Foundation, Improvement, and Rescue
This is a title by Dr Phil MacGraw.
In a nutshell, it says that you have to first change yourself before you can change your relationship.
It prescribes seven steps:
define and diagnose where the relationship is now;
get rid of your wrong thinking about relationship;
find out what you are doing to hurt the relationship;
internalize the values needed to build and maintain strong relationship;
the necessary format for a strong relationship;
and how to reconnect and manage the relationship.
Each section posed diagnostic questions, and directions for implementing what you learn. The process begins with identifying stalled thinking, works on stallbusting that thinking, and then builds new habits that will work better. The steps are extensive, but you can take them in bite-sized amounts.
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