To be fair to TV3, I thoroughly enjoyed a Motivasi Pagi segment with Siti Nor Bahyah (Siti Nurbaya* being one of my favorite heroines) last Sunday morning. Famed for her 'tips' on Cakar Harimau, she spoke about the devil that lurks in all of us, i.e. riya'.
The good ustazah defines 'Muflis' as being declared bankrupt by Allah on Judgement Day after He has instructed the Angels to take all our good deeds and give them to those that we have done wrong (via backstabbing, conniving, manipulating acts and vendettas), AND heaping their sins on to us. Wow, what a double whammy!
Hence, she cautioned against riya' ("showing off" or doing something to please others or to gain their approval and admiration, instead of focusing on receiving God's approval, satisfaction and pleasure) in respect to worship or prayers, charity, academic and professional achievements, awards and titles, wealth and status, physical attributes, so on and so forth.
Riya' is the opposite of ikhlas [purity of intention].
The Qur'an mentions this when describing the lazy state of the hypocrites as they go to prayer, dragging their feet, only so that people can see them performing prayers:
[Surely the hypocrites strive to deceive Allah, and He shall requite their deceit to them, and when they stand up to prayer they stand up sluggishly; they do it only to be seen of men and do not remember Allah save a little.] (An-Nisaa' 4:142)
The Qur'an also mentions riya' in respect to charity, as people sometimes pay charity to appear generous:
[O you who believe! do not make your charity worthless by reproach and injury, like him who spends his property to be seen of men and does not believe in Allah and the last day; so his parable is as the parable of a smooth rock with earth upon it, then a heavy rain falls upon it, so it leaves it bare; they shall not be able to gain anything of what they have earned; and Allah does not guide the unbelieving people.] (Al-Baqarah 2:264)
The Qur'an mentions this when describing the lazy state of the hypocrites as they go to prayer, dragging their feet, only so that people can see them performing prayers:
[Surely the hypocrites strive to deceive Allah, and He shall requite their deceit to them, and when they stand up to prayer they stand up sluggishly; they do it only to be seen of men and do not remember Allah save a little.] (An-Nisaa' 4:142)
The Qur'an also mentions riya' in respect to charity, as people sometimes pay charity to appear generous:
[O you who believe! do not make your charity worthless by reproach and injury, like him who spends his property to be seen of men and does not believe in Allah and the last day; so his parable is as the parable of a smooth rock with earth upon it, then a heavy rain falls upon it, so it leaves it bare; they shall not be able to gain anything of what they have earned; and Allah does not guide the unbelieving people.] (Al-Baqarah 2:264)
Siti Nor Bahyah and Prof Madya Dr Robiah are my favorite motivational speakers and I find their viewpoints a far cry from that of my secondary school ustazah.
* Siti Nurbaya merupakan tokoh utama dalam novel berjudul asli Siti Noerbaja karangan Marah Roesli yang diterbitkan oleh Balai Pustaka di era 1930'an. Dengan latar belakang adat budaya Minangkabau, novel ini berkisah tentang percintaan sepasang kekasih, Siti Nurbaya dan Syamsul Bahri yang gagal karena keadaan dan budaya pada masa itu. Dalam novel ini kita juga bisa melihat betapa unsur budaya paternalisme dan juga feodalisme memiliki peranan penting dalam menentukan nasib seseorang.
2 comments:
Forget Siti Bahyah. Forget 'Cakar rimau'. These are all TV gimmicks.
I'll go on my usual practice, say something amazingly insensitive and get my Missus's 'cubit' and eye-ball, along with her usual 'muncung' and after a few years, I still don't get it!
I guess we are typical Jantan, regardless what breed of dogs we are.
Like Jerry Seinfield said once, "Women have two version of orgasm; the real ones and the ones they fake".
"Our response to that as guys; we are fine with either!"
Civilisation since the time of Adam, have surviced and evolved on men being bloody insensitive! This will go on till the Star Trek era..............................
Hey, BigDog, thanks for the insight! It was indeed a pleasure being introduced to you yesterday afternoon. And I would like to add you to my blogroll, if you don't mind.
From your renditions of TV quotes, I find you're such an ideal case study for a media scholar like me. Is it Reality TV or Reality is TV?
I have a counter quote from Sharon Stone though: "Women may fake orgasms, but men can fake whole relationships!"
Maybe we could collaborate on a compilation of quotes on orgasms?Must get a creative caricaturist to do the illustrations for us. Could just be the ticket for me to be your Reality is TV buddy.
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