Lost In Translation

Better Man

Send someone to love me
I need to rest in arms
Keep me safe from harm
In pouring rain

Give me endless summer
Lord I fear the cold
Feel I'm getting old
Before my time

As my soul heals the shame
I will grow through this pain
Lord I'm doing all I can
To be a better man

Go easy on my conscience
'Cause it's not my fault
I know I've been told
To take the blame

Rest assured my angels
Will catch my tears
Walk me out of here
I'm in pain

As my soul heals the shame
I will grow through this pain
Lord I'm doing all I can
To be a better man

Once you've found that lover
You're homeward bound
Love is all around
Love is all around

I know some have fallen
On stony ground
But Love is all around

Send someone to love me
I need to rest in arms
Keep me safe from harm
In pouring rain

Give me endless summer
Lord I fear the cold
Feel I'm getting old
Before my time

As my soul heals the shame
I will grow through this pain
Lord I'm doin' all I can
To be a better man

Bicara Benar (Authentic Communication):

There must be at least a handful of male friends who have sang this song at karaoke sessions. I'm no Feminist Male Basher and my heart genuinely goes out to them - even the twice-married and cavorting with a GRO. Sincerely, I could feel their pain, if the only way they know how to express themselves is through 'things' that they can buy or acquire, when being 'bad' is a defence mechanism or self-preservation against vulnerability and hurt. What went wrong with the way parents raised their sons? Why do most men find it easier to communicate through actions than words?

On the other hand, some women have the tendency to scrutinise, dissect and analyze each feeling that they go through. And, of course, there are those who have the tendency to be in denial of the reality just so they will not be stigmatised. And what can we say about the 'smart' girls who internalise and play by the 'rules of the game' and almost always end up the victor? Whatever the outcome or consequences, we all answer to our own conscience and how well we sleep at night. But the issue is to achieve authentic communication and a genuine relationship.

Salam.